How to use January energy well (in dating)

Preparation, clarity, and the support that helps momentum last

January has a particular kind of energy.

After the slowdown of December, people feel lighter. More hopeful. More open to possibility. There’s a natural pull to get out there again, meet new people, and see what might unfold 🌱

That optimism can be incredibly helpful in dating.
It can also work against you if it isn’t paired with preparation.

In my last newsletter, I wrote about the dating skills many men don’t learn but deeply need: self-awareness, emotional clarity, and intentional communication. January doesn’t replace the need for those skills. It amplifies the results when they’re present and exposes the gaps when they’re not.

If you’re feeling ready to put yourself out there this month, here are a few ways to use that momentum wisely:

✨ Get clear on what you’re building.
Not just who you’re attracted to, but the kind of relationship you actually want and how you want to feel in it.

📸 Make sure how you’re showing up matches who you are now.
Profiles, photos, language, first impressions. January is a great time to refresh what’s outdated and let go of what no longer fits.

🗣️ Practice how you show up in real time.
Dating isn’t just about matches. It’s about conversation, presence, pacing, and feedback.

This is where support can be especially helpful.

Some people work with me on online dating profile revamps or ongoing profile management, so their profiles reflect who they are and what they want to build. Others benefit from mock dates with dating coach Eric Leonard, where they get real-time feedback on communication, body language, and pacing in a low-pressure setting.

For those looking for deeper, more curated support, I also offer matchmaking services designed to take the guesswork out of dating and focus on thoughtful, intentional introductions.

And if you’re someone who prefers to meet people in person, Storyfull Social is my way of building connection-forward community offline — through conversation prompts, games, and relaxed, welcoming events 🤍

Here’s what’s coming up in January:

📅 Jan 8 – Speed Friending (singles & non-singles welcome)
📅 Jan 15 – Singles Event for 30s/40s
📅 Jan 22 – Singles Event for 20s/30s
📅 Jan 29 – Singles Event for 45+

Later this week, I’ll also be sharing a conversation with a communications professor and expert in authenticity and non-verbal communication. We’ll explore how much we signal without realizing it, and why preparation shows up long before the words do.

January is a powerful starting point.
Preparation is what helps it last 💫